Grace is the Place

Part of the human makeup, or more specifically our egos, need to feel in control for its wellbeing.  Think of a toddler not getting its way or an adolescent trying to find their niche socially.  Both scenarios are an example of a person’s need to govern and command their lives.  We find solace thinking and believing we’re the overseers of our destiny and can curb any affront that comes our way.  But there’s a disconnect in how we feel and manage ourselves individually and collectively.  Our social, political, and environmental states suggest we need a more comprehensive approach to sustainably self-regulate and operate as a species; writ large. We’ve evolved marvelously addressing physical ease and comfort, but there’s work to be done in how we regulate and relate to ourselves, others, and the planet emotionally.

It’s human nature to welcome reward, praise, and affirmation that validates who we are and our identity.  Our upbringing and the emotional attachments we cling to are primarily made from the approval or disapproval of our actions, especially from those with authority like a parent or guardian.  Our values, the respect we have for ourselves and others, plus the level of tolerance to adversity are generally instilled by others. And then they get passed from one generation to the next.  Reason, logic, and knowledge are useful tools that have benefited humanity in countless ways, but controlling and administering emotions in a responsible way eludes many of us.  Even the brightest among us lose it occasionally, and why prioritizing and elevating emotional intelligence to the level of factual knowledge will do wonders for how we get along with ourselves, others, and the planet. 

The ocean of emotions, and how they get extracted from a high or low wave of experience needs to be done responsibly.  The ability to adapt in the best way possible to what we’re feeling at any one moment should be available to all.  There isn’t a perfect reaction to what we feel, and why accessibility to the breadth of the emotional ocean for everyone is so important.  Families, institutions, and workplaces need to support emotional intelligence in as much as factual knowledge.  Our species has done well at comfort and sheltering ourselves from the physical elements with houses and buildings.  But shouldn’t we also employ an emotional mote for protection to what we feel?   Everyone should laugh, cry, and feel all the emotions a person can experience, but more emotional armor and less sword will create less turbulence in all of our lives.  And that happens if more of us come from a deeper place, where the waters are undisturbed and immutably still.

But to know, trust, and feel such a place in our inner and outer worlds isn’t easy.  With technology, everything entangled, and the ego’s need to validate its self-worth through control, rooting ourselves can be difficult.  Regardless of how advanced our species becomes, we will always be part of nature, and She provides the path for how we should sprout as a species.  When we were troglodytes, we used available resources the best we could, and it was enough to get us where we are today.  But today, we consider them prehistoric, and their reaction to stimuli coming from an instinctual level, like the clobbering of another for a perceived offense.  We still have those instincts, and unfortunately, they’re rendered regularly.  However, we have the tools and resources to mitigate such primitive behavior if we’re open and willing. 

No one asked to be born, but we’re here and need parameters for operating sustainably.  And with more and more of us having a voice, embracing and utilizing emotional intelligence are more important than ever.  Our senses deceive us as everything is in constant flux including feelings, but we don’t notice much of it, like the shadows of stealth trauma.  There are so many wounds that no one sees, yet are as real this text.  Risk and suffering are a part of living and more of us need to be furnished with emotional implements to combat them.  Whether it’s climate change for comfort and convenience, or the potential consequences of telling an adolescent no; ameliorating, preventing, and lessening the possibility for a bad outcome is in our power.

We don’t know where we came from or where we go, but we know we’re on this journey together.  Physical, mental, and emotional adversities are lurking in every crevasse of life and there are no remedies for a lot of it.  But we can stave off bad behavior that is influenced by such uncertainty.  Irrespective of a situation and the unhealthy emotions it might provoke such as hubris or humiliation; coming from our essence that is beyond spacetime and its cause and effect quantum complexion, will help humanity be the best it can be. Where else does the invincible silent spring of love come from?  It’s from that, that doesn’t experience spacetime.

Wow, it sounds so super esoteric, not credible, and unfalsifiable, but at a fundamental level, we are beings of light trying to be human.  Light and one of its many offspring, grace, is our ally and best defense against all threats, especially emotional ones.  So, if a child is driving us crazy, a loved one not fulfilling a desire, or a wicked virus compromising our wellbeing, please know that our essence is light and we don’t have anything to fear.  But life can be overwhelmingly complicated, as it exists in the arena of spacetime, where humans have an insatiable need for control. But if more of us face up to and embrace the unknown, we will manifest less pain. But more essentially, it will foster more humility, grace, and hope. So let’s all go to that place where we minimize the potential for human-influenced suffering to ourselves, others, and the planet. A place that is always available to us. And that place is grace.